Here’s the deal, and where the crazy conflict lies!
We’re born and quickly learn to people please in order to be loved and held, since without being loved and held we literally shrivel up and die, just as babies do without food…
As teens and adults we discover that in order to belong we need to ‘be ourselves’, yet by this time we’ve often lost all sense of who we are anymore. In fact, many of us don’t even know what we want for breakfast!
WAYS WE LEARNED NOT TO BE OURSELVES:
1
We learn to people please from birth, so that our busy and distracted parents give us the attention we need, (or any attention at all in some cases).
2
Society kicks butt. It tells us how to look, what to wear, how to be, to speak, and teaches us to rein in our impulses. We’d better not dance in the rain when alone on the sidewalk unless we want to get taken away by those in white coats. We’d better not sing at the top of our lungs unless we’re certain no one’s watching…
3
Schools don’t accommodate the rockstars, renegades, individuals and free spirits. Schools teach us to sit still, shut up, pass tests, and be like everyone else.
WOMEN IN PARTICULAR STRUGGLE WITH THE CONFLICT OF BEING THEMSELVES, HERE'S WHY:
WOMEN IN PARTICULAR STRUGGLE WITH THE CONFLICT OF BEING THEMSELVES, HERE'S WHY:
Women have to understand, facilitate, please, love and nurture which is often mistaken for weakness, and they find themselves even more downtrodden. The answer is for them to step into their power, to know who they are, own their strengths, and let no one mess with or undermine this great beauty and giving.
Women almost always want to contribute, to give, to help. However, they often give what they desperately need themselves. The key is for them to get clearer on their own needs first, and to come to a place where a contribution is a wild ride of fun, love, and laughter, rather than a life or death crusade.
Women historically haven’t been heard. They are often terrified to speak up, since they’re often shot right down when they do. As a woman steps into her true self; discarding the great layers of loneliness, anxiety, and doubt, she realizes she’s able to shout her great truths from the mountaintops!
Women have to understand, facilitate, please, love and nurture which is often mistaken for weakness, and they find themselves even more downtrodden. The answer is for them to step into their power, to know who they are, own their strengths, and let no one mess with or undermine this great beauty and giving.
Women almost always want to contribute, to give, to help. However, they often give what they desperately need themselves. The key is for them to get clearer on their own needs first, and to come to a place where a contribution is a wild ride of fun, love, and laughter, rather than a life or death crusade.
Women historically haven’t been heard. They are often terrified to speak up, since they’re often shot right down when they do. As a woman steps into her true self; discarding the great layers of loneliness, anxiety, and doubt, she realizes she’s able to shout her great truths from the mountaintops!
THINGS YOU CAN DO TO BE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW!
Learn to say ‘NO’ to the BS, and the things that drag you down into the low depressive energy, and ‘YES’ to the things that make you soar!
Begin to shift the balance. Transform your environment to make it more ‘you’. What we surround ourselves with is often a reflection of how we feel inside. If you live in chaos, you often have inner chaos too. A great way to inner-calm is to begin with your external environment.
Take a good look at your patterns of people-pleasing. Make a list of 5 things you do over and over to fit in and be liked, (like fitting your schedule around everybody else’s or going 10,000 extra miles to accommodate others).
Now list 5 things you find yourself doing when you’re just being you (like walking in nature, drawing, playing your favorite music, etc.)
Set yourself up for success in the coming months. Join us, for our LIVE interactive Ultimate 20/20 Vision workshop – secure your spot here.
Our intention is simple. To support you to handle the day-to-day so you can unleash your bigger vision. A safe place – a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Within our community hub, you’ll find our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies.
Create meaningful connections – join our community of like-minded crusaders who share your values and vision!
Here’s the deal, and where the crazy conflict lies!
We’re born and quickly learn to people please in order to be loved and held, since without being loved and held we literally shrivel up and die, just as babies do without food…
As teens and adults we discover that in order to belong we need to ‘be ourselves’, yet by this time we’ve often lost all sense of who we are anymore. In fact, many of us don’t even know what we want for breakfast!
WAYS WE LEARNED NOT TO BE OURSELVES:
1
We learn to people please from birth, so that our busy and distracted parents give us the attention we need, (or any attention at all in some cases).
2
Society kicks butt. It tells us how to look, what to wear, how to be, to speak, and teaches us to rein in our impulses. We’d better not dance in the rain when alone on the sidewalk unless we want to get taken away by those in white coats. We’d better not sing at the top of our lungs unless we’re certain no one’s watching…
3
Schools don’t accommodate the rockstars, renegades, individuals and free spirits. Schools teach us to sit still, shut up, pass tests, and be like everyone else.
WOMEN IN PARTICULAR STRUGGLE WITH THE CONFLICT OF BEING THEMSELVES, HERE'S WHY:
WOMEN IN PARTICULAR STRUGGLE WITH THE CONFLICT OF BEING THEMSELVES, HERE'S WHY:
Women have to understand, facilitate, please, love and nurture which is often mistaken for weakness, and they find themselves even more downtrodden. The answer is for them to step into their power, to know who they are, own their strengths, and let no one mess with or undermine this great beauty and giving.
Women almost always want to contribute, to give, to help. However, they often give what they desperately need themselves. The key is for them to get clearer on their own needs first, and to come to a place where a contribution is a wild ride of fun, love, and laughter, rather than a life or death self-help crusade.
Women historically haven’t been heard. Often terrified to speak up, they find they’re often shot right down when they do. As a woman steps into her true self; discarding the great layers of loneliness, anxiety, and doubt, she realizes she’s able to shout her great truths from the mountaintops!
Women have to understand, facilitate, please, love and nurture which is often mistaken for weakness, and they find themselves even more downtrodden. The answer is for them to step into their power, to know who they are, own their strengths, and let no one mess with or undermine this great beauty and giving.
Women almost always want to contribute, to give, to help. However, they often give what they desperately need themselves. The key is for them to get clearer on their own needs first, and to come to a place where a contribution is a wild ride of fun, love, and laughter, rather than a life or death self-help crusade.
Women historically haven’t been heard. Often terrified to speak up, they find they’re often shot right down when they do. As a woman steps into her true self; discarding the great layers of loneliness, anxiety, and doubt, she realizes she’s able to shout her great truths from the mountaintops!
THINGS YOU CAN DO TO BE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW!
Learn to say ‘NO’ to the BS, and the things that drag you down into the low depressive energy, and ‘YES’ to the things that make you soar!
Begin to shift the balance. Transform your environment to make it more ‘you’. What we surround ourselves with is often a reflection of how we feel inside. If you live in chaos, you often have inner chaos too. A great way to inner-calm is to begin with your external environment.
Take a good look at your patterns of people-pleasing. Make a list of 5 things you do over and over to fit in and be liked, (like fitting your schedule around everybody else’s or going 10,000 extra miles to accommodate others).
Now list 5 things you find yourself doing when you’re just being you (like walking in nature, drawing, playing your favorite music, etc.)
Set yourself up for success in the coming months. Join us, on Jan 25th for our LIVE interactive Ultimate 20/20 Vision workshop – secure your spot here.
Our intention is simple. To support you to handle the day-to-day so you can unleash your bigger vision. A safe place – a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Within our community hub, you’ll find our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies.
Create meaningful connections – join our community of like-minded crusaders who share your values and vision!
